WHY I STOPPED PEOPLE-PLEASING



People-pleasing. It's damn well exhausting. I should know. People-pleaser's never says 'no', they can be the most kindest and most helpful people you will come across. People-pleaser's do a lot for themselves and a lot for others, although they often put others before themselves. They also try to fit into everyones mould and be what everyone else wants them to be, because again, they want to please people. I was a people-pleaser, and to be quite honest, I still am in ways. I mean, of course I want everyone to be happy and to help everyone, but I have to remember that this isn't always a good thing. It got to the point where I wanted to stop being the girl who always said 'yes'.


So why did I decide to stop pleasing others and started living for myself?


It's exhausting - As much as you want to fit into everyone's mould and be what they need you to be, it's ridiculously draining, not to mention impossible. It is difficult when you want to make everyone happy, but putting others before yourself 24/7 is so exhausting and not to mention, very unhealthy for your own well being.

No matter how hard you try, it'll never be enough - No matter how hard you try, there will always be a part of you which doesn't measure up to someone else's standards. You may be good enough for one person, but not good enough for another. You cannot spend your life trying to live up to everyones expectations, but you simply cannot please everyone. Stop trying to meet others expectations of you and just simply be YOU.
People pleasing hides the real you

Your sense of self will be lost - In this midst of pleasing everyone else but yourself, your thoughts, feelings and perspectives will alter to suit someone else's. You stop being you and become a person who others want you to be. You lose your individuality and your uniqueness.


Not to mention it will make you unhappy - It's a hard job pleasing everyone, you will end up exhausted, lost, unhappy, broken and more. But when you finally stop worrying about everyone else and focus on yourself, you stop worrying about what others want and need you to be and you focus on loving yourself and start being the person you are and want to be.



What I have discovered most since I stopped people-pleasing is myself. I have started loving myself more and just being me. The real me.

6 comments

  1. You look absolutely stunning in these Sophie! I completely agree with everything you said, this was such a lovely post to read! I'm so glad you've started living for you and seen so many benefits!

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    1. Aww thank you so much Harriet! That is so lovely! And I am so glad that you enjoyed reading this, I hope that it can help others who have been in similar situations also! X

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  2. I literally live for this post!
    It's about time people started developing this mindset and concentrated on making themselves happy! I definitely learned a few things from this, so thank you xx

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    1. Thank you so much! I'm so glad you liked it. Definitely, at the end of the day, you are you and you have to live your life and it is your happiness/thoughts you have to focus on! Xx

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  3. Totally agree with this! You can still be polite and nice without people pleasing (I mean, I don't manage it, but I'm sure there are people that do ��). Also, love your layout.

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    1. Thank you Kelly, that means alot. You're right! That is very true and a great way of putting it!

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